“Until the great mass of the people shall be filled with the sense of responsibility for each other’s welfare, social justice can never be attained.” Helen Keller
The aim of this blog is to help alleviate the pain of isolation and aid healing. To give a voice to all those amongst us who have suffered the misery caused by encountering a narcissist or sociopath, or who have themselves become narcissistic or sociopathic, or who have simply struggled with an internal harmful critical voice which has led to psychological pain and suffering. Such pain and suffering will have manifested in a range of “labelled disorders”.
In my professional role as a therapist and teacher, there exists a tension between self-disclosure and maintaining a private life. However, as a wounded healer and in the light of integrity, transparency and equality, I am a human being. Furthermore, its a fact that I only write about topics which are close to my heart. In such manner, my writing reflects in part my own journey, in part your journey, and in part the journey of that which is not ours to own; an illustration of the hidden mechanisms underpinning the wider world.
Although our stories are different, having encountered such darkness, the underlying overwhelming emotions of guilt, grief and shame are all the same. However, sometimes something happens that is so shocking. Its so destructive its almost unbelievable. There is no-one at greater risk of professional harm from abusive persons than a therapist. A person who has devoted their life to giving of themselves. My writing will hopefully serve as a bridge upon which to stop and reflect, gain clarity and composure to assist with your choice of path on the recovery journey back to earth, equipped with a healing spirit to cross new terrain and provide a voice. Not just to name your pain, but to show you are one of life’s survivors.
Through this creative vehicle, my desire is to reach out to you. Plain English will be used as far as possible. However, this is not to say that some pieces may be a little more academic. The aim is for every word, every phrase, every symbol and every feeling invoked to be life-affirming, validating and lend meaning to your own story. For those who have so far emailed me with your stories, I really appreciate your help in assisting this healing work of communication, collaboration and closure.
With much love and light